12 Secrets to Living (and Looking) More Like the French

 

There’s no way you’ve walked through a bookstore, flipped through a magazine, or even scrolled through sites like this one without seeing story after story devoted to the alluring way French women approach beauty, fashion, and life in general. That said, there’s so much more to pulling off a quintessentially French vibe than just tousling your hair and throwing on a striped shirt.

In honor of Bastille Day, we rounded up 12 genius beauty secrets and lifestyle tips from French women that are absolutely worth putting to the test every day.

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  1. Follow a French diet for better skin.
    By diet, we mean the stuff you should be consuming on a day-to-day basis—not something that’s used only for weight loss.

In The French Beauty Solution, author and founder of beloved beauty brand Caudalie Mathilde Thomas notes that the French typically follow a Mediterranean-style diet, which consists of “fresh vegetables and fruit, whole grains, nuts, legumes, olive, oil, and fish,” with little meat and even less processed foods.”

  1. Switch up your water. 
    Thomas notes that water from natural springs or mineral water is packed with stuff like calcium, magnesium, potassium, and sodium—all things that are good for your health (she drinks Vichy Célestinsand Hépar, FYI.)
  2. Wear perfume.
    This is one you’ve heard before, but French women seem to have a different relationship with fragrance. In fact, French President of Physician’s Formula, Ingrid Jackel, was quoted to Elleas saying, “I was taught to use fragrance every day since I was a little girl. I feel naked without it on.” French women have a ton of tiny tricks to keepit on, too.

In her book, Thomas admits she likes to spray it on a cotton handkerchief then place it in her bag so the scent lingers longer.

  1. Take time for your skin—especially before travel.
    Marie-Laure Fournier, a PR pro who represents clients like Orlane to The Organic Pharmacy says that every French woman she knows is always prepping her skin before taking off for vacay.

“Most of them will eat a lot of antioxidant-filled food, or there’s a company called Oenobiol which has been a big French secret for decades and offers different pills to help you with your beauty issues.”

 

French model, actress, and It-girl Elisa Sednaoui (WENN)

  1. Watch your snacking—and sit down to eat.
    In The French Beauty Solution, Thomas notes that the French sit down to a proper meal, as opposed to refueling in front of the computer or the TV. She also says that while the French eat good food (read: cheese, bread, cream), they do so in moderation. Similarly, Fournier notes that the French tend to teach their children not to snack between meals.
  2. Have that red wine at dinner.
    It’s always in the news for its reported health benefits,but there’s no denying that the French have also learned to truly savor the taste. In her book, Thomas even teaches you how to drink wine like the French with a roundup of helpful tips on when to uncork it, how to bask in its fragrance, and more.

 

French musician and fashion star Lou Doillon (Getty Images)

  1. Don’t just accept imperfections—embrace them.
    French actress Mona Walravensspoke to this point in a recent interview withHarper’s Bazaar: “I think it’s the natural aspect of beautiful French women, the less-is-more style. For example, I really like light dark circles, I think they’re beautiful. I feel that Americans have a more standardized approach to beauty, whereas the strength of French women lies in their physical uniqueness.”

She added that French women accept imperfections and “manage to emphasize the unique aspect of beauty instead of trying to modify and change it and move towards a standard of beauty, like having full lips and a small nose.”

  1. Go for a bun—and make it messy.
    Thomas notes that an imperfect bun is a French woman’s must-have. “Walk into practically any office in Paris (including Caudalie’s) and you’ll see rows upon rows of perfectly messy buns.”
  2. Learn to give yourself a facial massage.
    “French woman are obsessed with face massages to maintain a healthy glow, skin tissue health and relieve facial stress,” French celebrity epidermatologist explained to Daily Makeover.

 

French actress Àstrid Bergès-Frisbey (Photo: Getty)

  1. Try highlighting instead of contouring.
    In an interview with The Cut,French makeup artist Violette mentioned that there isn’t even a French translation for contouring and instead, they play with light and highlighting.

“Contouring is not our thing because the main beauty philosophy in France is to accept who you are. That’s what makes the French look so specific. We just do a little. We want to keep it simple. Even if we don’t have the best cheekbones, we put the focus on our lips or lashes.”

  1. Wear a bold red lip.
    We know it’s a little cliché, but you can’t talk about French beauty and notmention a red lip. Violette voiced this in an interview with Vogue: “Red lipstick is a fashion accessory. So we won’t wear any other makeup with it. Then our hair has to be messy, our skin has to be perfect, and we’ll just wear jeans and heels because the lipstick makes the statement.”
  2. Embrace a “Je ne sais quoi” attitude.
    Fournier notes that “self-confidence” is perhaps the greatest “ally of French women.”

5 Lifestyle Changes That’ll Make You Instantly Hotter (Really!)

 

Are you attracting what (and who) you want in life?

So you’re having trouble meeting somebody. You’ve read things on how to meet somebody. You’ve used all different approaches and methods for how to meet somebody. Yet it’s still not happening for you. Why not? Meeting someone is not just about memorizing approaches or methodologies. That’s only part of the equation. It’s about being sexy … on the inside.

By creating an amazing lifestyle and being passionate about the things you do, you will start attracting the opposite sex instead of spending your life chasing them and hoping you’ll connect with them. People are attracted to positive, fun, interesting and well-rounded individuals. If you’re miserable or doing things that you don’t enjoy, you are not going to meet someone no matter what approach or methodology you use to do it. The reason is that no one wants to meet someone who is miserable or spending their life doing things they don’t like.

Here are five steps to make you INSTANTLY more attractive to the opposite sex:

  1. Ditch The Toxic Work Environment.

One of the first (and most important) things you need to do to create an amazing lifestyle is take a very critical look at your current work environment. Because work is something most of us HAVE to do, we sometimes don’t expect that it is also something we can want to do (or at least not hate doing). If your work environment is making you miserable, then it’s time to consider a change. If you stay in a toxic environment, you’re going to project miserable and angry vibes (and attract miserable and angry people). No thanks!

  1. Do What You Love (So Love Can Find You).

So many people go to places they believe they “should” go or “have to” go in order to meet somebody, and they don’t even like those places. (A bar, for example. They aren’t for everyone.) So instead of trying to meet your soulmate at a place you hate (doing something you hate), pick five things YOU really love to do. When you go to places that interest you, you’ll already have things to talk about, and you will in turn naturally bond with people.

  1. Be More Open To New Experiences.

Positive people are open to new experiences. Instead of expecting to meet someone when you go out (and getting totally disappointed if you don’t), be open to what the day or night might present to you. Being open means talking to everyone with which you come into contact, and not only being friendly to someone you find attractive. Just because you are not attracted to the person you’re talking to doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be open and friendly. Remember that every connection you make with someone leads to another, and you never know what (or who) that next connection might bring into your life.

  1. Make A Point To Actually Have FUN.

A big part of being attractive to the opposite sex is being approachable. So when you go out, don’t just “show up.” Embrace the moment and approach everything with a child-like enthusiasm. Smile, talk to people, ask questions and enjoy yourself! During a recent coaching weekend with several male clients, instead of just “taking them out to meet women”, I took them to the beach and had them build sand castles. Why? To teach them how to have fun again and lighten up. If you’re serious when you try to meet someone, then you’re not having fun. And that is NOT attractive.

  1. Embrace The Law Of Attraction (And Smile)

It’s called attraction for a reason. If you’re angry, you are going to attract angry people and you will spend your day in constant confrontations. If you walk around having fun, casual conversations and enjoying every step of the journey—even if you’re just running an errand to the market—you are going to attract great people into your life! People are attracted to happy people. No one wants to hang out with a person who is pouting, folding their arms and looking miserable. That’s why it’s so important for you to create a positive lifestyle.

Creating a positive lifestyle is all about learning to genuinely enjoy your life every single day. Do things that you love and enjoy them. Embrace every single moment. By doing these things, you will naturally become more attractive (and memorable).

So why continue to chase after people you want to meet when you can start attracting them? Create an amazing, positive lifestyle, be passionate about the things you do and you WILL start attracting the opposite sex.